Anonymous asked:
Dominants and submissives are mostly lonely people, it’s harder for us to find our partner, but giving up hope is just the worst thing a person can do to oneself, I’m single myself but I know that hope is a great thing, just like cats, you can still buy them not 12 but 2 maybe.
My first advice for you to be aware of abusers and posers, and learn to read a Dominant man’s traits better, then subtly reveal your own nature, we can smell a submissive from a mile away so it’ll be enough.
Secondly don’t try too hard to find one, or think too much about it, just live your life, finding the right one is not entirely up to you don’t forget that, it’s up to him too, in other words, both of you are responsible, but also there is nothing either of you can do about it for now: I believe in fate and I also believe that everything happens for a reason, when it’s time, you’ll find each other, whether you want it or not.
And lastly, buy a cat!
Opinion:
I don’t care what you saw in some dumb ass movie or read in some terribly inaccurate book. BDSM is basically the Mr. Potato Head of kink/relationships/dynamics/lifestyles. You don’t have to be shoved into a particular group and be told that’s where you’re supposed to be.
You can belong to a mix of all kinds of different kinks and lifestyles. We are all unique with unique wants, desires, and needs. Don’t let someone tell you what you’re supposed to be. As long as you keep everything Safe, Sane, and Consensual, do whatever works for you or for you and your partner.
Mindsets and your headspace can change and that’s part of being human. You do not need to try and conform to a perceived “textbook” way of doing things. Are there some methods and ways of doing things that most can all agree upon? Of course, but those usually relate to remaining mentally healthy and emotionally/physically safe.
Like life and human nature itself, BDSM is fluid. It is adaptable and flexible. It is all of the things you need it to be. It is there to both promote and accommodate personal growth. You don’t have to be strict and a suit wearing 24/7 Master/slave to enjoy the wonderful bounties of D/s and BDSM in general. Stop looking to terrible movies, books, and porn to develop your perception of BDSM.
This isn’t just about sex, it’s about growing together and working towards the betterment of each other and oneself. It’s about commitment, communication, reassurance, respect, trust, effort, and a deep caring for one another.
Too often BDSM is the scapegoat to justify emotional, physical, and spiritual abuse. Too often BDSM is falsely misconstrued into some dark and depraved form of “50 Shades” ball of bull shit. Knowledge is out there and you should always endeavor to seek it and maintain it. The education doesn’t and shouldn’t ever end. It’s guidance and leadership. It’s partnerships and building your self worth and value.
All of you fake ass posers/abusers/fuckbois(gals) take notice, this is a community that looks after one another. You will be found out and exposed. You will not continue to soil the beauty of what BDSM truly is.
All of those new to the community, welcome! There’s a lot of new and exciting information to learn and absorb. Don’t worry about not knowing where to start at first. Don’t worry about feeling like there’s too much to try and take in. This is a long journey and not a pottery class at the community center. It takes time and the learning never ends. Speak and seek what you wish to know. Get your information from multiple sources. Learn the science and psychology behind it. Don’t get disheartened if you don’t feel you belong to one specific group because we’re all a bunch of groups that make up this incredible community. You do belong and you will find your place and chances are you’ll see yourself changing as you go. You are welcome and we are here to try and help you on your journey.
— Sir Daddy
Reblog this please, for the good of everybody.
As a result, over time, you’ll get less sad and less lonely,
